Whoosh! Like that it’s the end of another year. The year goes by fast but the days and weeks sometimes go slowly. We’re now in the midst of planning New Year’s Eve parties.
Before we move into our New Years, as smart women we need to learn how to learn from the mistakes and missteps we made along the way so we won’t make new resolutions. We’re constantly encouraging our friends to learn from their mistakes—we have to be willing as well. Learning from our mistakes and past resolutions builds our confidence as wise women and human beings.
If you keep repeating the same choices (and habits) you’ve made year after year even though you make resolutions, you’re going to keep getting the same results. For example, year after year I would make the mistake of doing my writing at the end of the day. I was able to do a little writing or coaching, but I knew deep down I didn’t do my best writing at the end of a day.
So my writing suffered. So, this year, I’m going. to write in the mornings when I’m fresh. I found the time and made it work. You can make mistakes work for you, too. Try this simple 2-step process to not only fix your mistakes but grow yourself, year after year.
Step 1. Identify Your Mistakes or Past Broken Resolutions. The simple way to determine if something was a mistake or not is asking yourself, “Did I grow from this?” If not, it wasn’t successful. Or if you are evaluating a personal habit, ask “Did staying late every week help me do my job better?” In my case, “No” is the clear answer. The question helped me realize that my writing wasn’t as fun or as thorough. I really enjoy writing, but I wasn’t enjoying the results of my writing, not at the end of a busy day. I needed to make a course correction.
What are the mistakes you’ve made this past year that point you toward a change?
Step 2. Identify Cause. Now, think about the mistake itself or the failed resolution. When we use life hack strategies, there are usually one of two reasons they fail. The least likely (and first cause) is we’re new, still learning, and need to practice. Overcoming that simply takes time and continued learning.
The second common cause of mistakes is simple fatigue. At the end of our day, we are way past making good decisions. Our brains want to make the easiest choice, not the right choice. So planning ahead is essential for success. Planning ahead is potentially the easiest way to create learning from our mistakes. Growing from your mistakes (instead of allowing yourself to repeat them) will lead you to a beautiful new year.
So as you are contemplating and dreaming during your upcoming parties—take a moment to envision to dream of a beautiful year. Imagine your life free of previous mistakes, infused with the mindset of learning and growing, year after year, with decreasing frustration and worry.
You can do that. You can make that happen.